Astride
With the man lying on his back on the bed, the woman can sit astride him and control the pace of their lovemaking. Facing him, she may squat on her haunches for a more powerful bouncing movement, or, as here, kneel, supporting herself with her hands. This way, she is free to lean forward and kiss his mouth. From this position it is easy for her to increase the intimacy by lying with her whole body along his. A variation is for her to face away from him, increasing the depth of penetration.
Fellatio
In fellatio, the woman sucks, licks, kisses and strokes her partner's penis. Exquisitely satisfying for the man, fellatio can also give enormous erotic pleasure to the woman as she senses his responses and his total abandonment to her.
Crawl
Deep penetration can be achieved with the woman on all fours and her partner kneeling behind her. This position gives both lovers the opportunity to thrust against one another, and the man may also caress his partner's breasts, buttocks and clitoris. Rear entry positions like this one are ideal when both partners are in the mood for vigorous rather than tender lovemaking. A variation is for both partners to stand with the woman bending forward and supporting herself against furniture.
Fireside
In this cozy position, which can follow cunnilingus, the woman sits comfortably in an armchair with her hands and legs around the man, who enters kneeling in front of her. If she leans back, he can support himself with his hands on the back of the chair, which will allow him more thrust.
Futon
For this position you need to try out all your furniture to find a piece of the correct height. The woman lies on the edge of a table, futon or bed covered with quilts and pillows, and spreads her legs wide. The man can begin by kneeling to give her cunnilingus, then he enters her, supporting himself on his knees and holding her legs. This affords him a great deal of control, and the angle of penetration is steep.
Lap
This is a position that may suggest itself while cuddling on the sofa. The man sits with the woman straddling his lap, facing him. She controls the pace, they can kiss and he can caress her breasts. She moves up and down on him, supporting herself with her knees on the sofa, and her arms around his neck. If they use a dining chair, she can keep her feet on the floor and hold on to the chair back for support if necessary. If she faces away from him, they will be able to achieve deeper penetration, and she could support herself against furniture in front of her.
Urgent
This position is ideal for when you are unexpectedly overtaken by the urge to make love. It does not require more than a loosening of the clothes if you want. The woman leans over the nearest available piece of furniture and the man enters from behind. It is good for fast exciting sex and gives both partners the opportunity to thrust against one another.
Standing carry
The man stands, holding his partner in his arms. She wraps he legs round his waist and her arms round his shoulders. She can move against him by pulling herself up and down, and he can help her with his arms. This position can be assumed from sitting. It can, of course, be adopted in a very confined space, but it is quite strenuous. From this position you can return to sitting, or the man can gently lower his partner on to a bed or preferably a table, where thrusting can continue without so much exertion.
There are numerous techniques at your disposal to get a woman to go to bed with you. Most women will tell you, however, that this is not true. I suppose that they don't want us (men) to have the keys to the lock that opens up their coveted wares. But in this short article I will share with you some information and techniques that will give you much, much better odds at getting any woman into bed.
To seduce a woman you will first need to understand her point of view and then proceed accordingly, not only to obtain your own objectives, but for your mutual satisfaction and fulfillment. Because women want to be seduced and they want to have sex as much as men, they just want it on their own terms.
The most important sexual organ you possess as a man is your mind. You must use your mental powers to arouse a woman and to handle her objections and fears to get her into bed. In many ways, you're going to have to talk your way into bed. Before discussing her fears, however, I want to warn you about your own. You cannot have a negative internal dialogue with yourself and all sorts of doubts and negative thoughts racing through your brain when you're seducing a woman or you will surely sabotage yourself. So don't allow yourself to dwell upon your fear of rejection, your inadequacies, or any doubts you have about yourself. You must stay positive and expect the best to occur every time you are with a woman. Believe in yourself, relax, and have fun. Women will be less likely to resist any move you make if you are natural and carefree. Like a beautiful young woman once told me, "The fewer a guy's worries are, usually the more attractive he is."
As I write this article I realize that there is so much to tell you and it's simply not possible in a short article like this. I must refer you to the last chapter of my book (available at this website) if you want the complete picture and a more detailed explanation of the whole seduction process.
Anyway, to seduce a woman you will have to influence her mind. You will have to persuade her to have sex with you because the decision to have sex or not is a woman's prerogative. Once you understand the criteria upon which she bases her decision, you will be able to influence her in a way that will get you the results you desire.
Much of the criteria upon which a woman bases her decision on whether or not she is going to give it up revolves around her basic fears. A woman must first be free of any anxiety or fears before she will invite you to ravage her. You need to clear away the obstacles to the bedroom. Understand a woman's fears and you can leverage a woman's point of view to your advantage.
A woman has three main fears that you need to handle to clear the path to pleasure, ease, and her enjoyment of sex. First, she fears that she is not as beautiful as she needs to be, or could be, or should be. Women are always worried about their weight, the size of their breasts, their wardrobe, and their overall attractiveness. To eliminate these fears of inadequacy, tell her how beautiful she is. Tell her what you think of her skin, her neck, her legs, and especially her eyes. But don't mention her breasts unless they're perfect and not until you have already caressed them. Complement her about her clothes, her eye makeup, her jewelry, and never, NEVER critize her or belittle her in any way when you're making your move toward the bedroom.
Her second biggest fear is her fear of abandonment. She needs to feel that after you make love to her that you are still going to be with her in the future. Reassure her that you are now a part of her life. In your pre-bedroom conversation, tell her how much you look forward to spending time with her in the future, and explain why you can see the two of you together for a long time, and talk about exciting things you will do together over the weeks and months ahead.
The third big fear to handle before getting a woman into bed is her fear of unwanted pregnancy or contracting the AIDS virus. You deal with this fear by broaching the subject of condoms before you get all hot with passion. Most women now days will not have sex with you unless you're wearing a condom. As a Chinese girlfriend of mine was fond of saying, "No cover wang, no get bang!" Your job is to reassure her ahead of time that you use condoms and that you have a supply of them on hand. Look for ways to talk about the subject of condoms in a non-threatening way. Say something sometime early on like, "I think it's really important that people use condoms when making love." Try to word it in a way that uses third party names and references; don't say 'you' like to use condoms don't you.
OK. So now you know about handling a woman's fears in order to seduce her. How about using Embedded Suggestions and Sexual Body Language to get her into bed? These are powerful techniques and work on an unconscious level like hypnotic suggestion to get a woman to start thinking about sex. When a woman starts thinking about sex, she will start to feel like having sex. First you get the mind working and then the body follows. There are very subtle ways to elicit the desired response you want from a woman through the power of mental association by means of an embedded suggestion. And using the proper body language is even more powerful and effective than using language to lower a woman's defenses and arouse her.
1. Call her by the dog's name and then deny it.
2. Answer all her questions with a question, preferably one on a totally
different subject.
3. Superglue the commode seat in the up position.
4. Shrink her jeans and when she overreacts because she thinks that she's
gaining weight, give her a condescending smile and say that you prefer her
with some meat on her bones.
5. Firmly refuse to ever ask for directions even if you find yourself in
Georgia when your original destination was California.
6. Call her by your mother's name and then deny it.
7. Start a conversation with the dog in the middle of one with her.
8. Buy her power tools for Valentine's Day.
9. Never give her a straight answer.
10. Take up yodelling and practice a lot.
11. Quote Tim Allen to validate your position during arguments. (Argh!
Argh! Argh!)
12. Leave the newspaper open to an ad for plastic surgery.
13. Pretend you forgot how to speak English.
14. Answer every question with "Yes, dear."
What is Fellatio ?
Fellatio, giving head, giving a blow-job. Many men love this kind of stimulation, and many people, both women and men, like giving it. Fellatio is the act of applying your lips to a man's penis with the purpose of giving him pleasure.
There are few tips to fellatio that can be given other than practice. The lips and the tongue are the major sources of stimulation, and it is with the lips and tongue that you should apply the attention to make him feel good. Both men and women respond well to pressure and rhythm. A steady, strong stroke will be enough to get the reaction you're looking for.
What if it doesn't smell or taste good ?
If the smell isn't something you enjoy, then tell him to go take a shower! While this is something you're doing primarily for his pleasure, that doesn't mean you have to suffer if he's lacking in hygiene! And if you're worried about germs, your mouth has millions more germs than a clean penis.
What is "deep throating” ?
Deep throating is the act of taking the penis down past your gag reflex. In reality, this particular sexual adventure is very overrated. The best way to give fellatio is still with the lips and tongue, taking only as much as you can without gagging. However, for those that want to know, the basic lesson is still practice. Take the penis as far as you can without choking, and then close your eyes and concentrate, taking each quarter inch, telling yourself that you won't choke, that you can take it out at any time, and slowly swallow it down. Then rise off of it just as slowly.
Are there any special spots on the penis ?
Every penis is different, and each has its sensitive spots and its preferred ways of being handled. Listen to your lover. The sounds he makes and the feel of his body tensing are your best clues that you're going this right.
Should I use my hands ?
Feel free to grasp with your hands whatever of the penis you can't fit into your mouth. Many men like as much stimulation as possible, and the feel of a wet mouth and a saliva-slicked hand are enough to send them to the brink of orgasm very quickly.
Oral sex begins with the first deep kiss, and continues with kisses all over the body, concentrating finally on the genitals. On the part of the giver it requires a degree of emotional involvement, because it must be done with patience, tenderness, sensitivity and mounting but controlled excitement if it is to be really good. Lovers who give oral sex reluctantly and without generosity or enjoyment make their partners feel guilty and selfish, and too tense and worried to relax and take pleasure themselves.
From the receiver, oral sex requires trust, and the confidence that comes with being made to feel desirable. In sex, as in other areas of life, it is often more difficult to receive generosity than to give it, but the person who succumbs completely to pleasure delivers himself or herself over to the lover, and this also gives a sense of wonderment. It goes without saying that sexual hygiene is of prime importance for anyone who engages in oral sex.
Oral sex for women is called cunnilingus. For many women, cunnilingus is the most exciting of all the variations of sex, and a gentle and skilful lover should be able to make his partner come with his tongue more easily than in any other way. A strong slippery tongue can be used with precision on the clitoris without danger of causing any pain, unlike a finger.
Begin by kissing your partner's face and mouth, and then gradually work your way down her body, kissing and stroking her breasts, belly and inner thighs. Flick your tongue in light feathery kisses along the fleshy folds of the outer labia, smoothing away the pubic hair and then parting the labia gently with your fingers. Move very gradually inwards with your tongue. Vary your movements according to your partner's response.
Condoms come ready-rolled and most end in a teat, which catches the semen.
Expel the air from the teat at the tip of the condom by squeezing it.
Place the opening of the condom on the head of the penis.
Roll it down the shaft to fit comfortably.
When fully unrolled, the condom should extend almost to the base of the penis and fit like a second skin, feeling silky and smooth.
Ok, First things first...I have read a lot of books, seen a lot of things, and experienced things first hand for myself. This is how I know what girls are looking for. There are 3 concepts you need to understand here. After you understand all 3 you can move on to the conclusion of this text.
First: Girls want a guy who is confident!
This is very important. Most guys who don't have a girlfriend are ones who lay low, let the girls find them. Also they don't show off! Now when I say show off I'm not saying show off like freakin' standing on your head and shit, no...what you must understand is confidence. You must show you have no fear of rejection. So when you see a tons hot chick in class...on the street...at work, what do you do? You go right up and ask them their name and number. Say something smooth, like, I'm going to a movie Saturday night, and I was wondering if you would like to join me? Babes dig a guy who seem sure of themself...it allows them to let down their guard and feel secure. So just to sum it up for you all short like...A guy can have any chick he wants... The only catch is that they must know how to accomplish this. So, First thing, find a chick you dig. When you are feeling totally confident (If your not, pretend! Come on...be a good actor!) Stroll up to her ask her what her name is and go for it! Now if you understand the jest of what I have just said, You are thinking of nothing more than to be confident & smooth. Great, now you understand the first concept.
What if's:
Ok, stop right there! I know a lot of you are reading this and thinking...hey its not that easy...There is a lot I don't know. What if she has a boyfriend and he wants to beat the bloody-piss out of me for hitting on her?...What if she thinks I'm ugly?... What if I look stupid and piss my fuckin' pants? You know what I say? Screw it, you can't be worried about that shit...life goes on! Even if you do get the bloody-piss kicked out of you, well you tried (but odds are if she has a boyfriend, she will just tell you and it will end there). So fuck all the what ifs and go for it!
Second: The 30-second rule!
Ok, next one is very short and sweet. A girl will decide within the first 30 seconds of meeting you if she will do you. Its that simple, make a good impression at the very beginning and it will all go well for you when it comes time for gettin' down! Or going down...or whatever you do!
What if I have screwed that up already...Like there is this chick I want, but she probably already thinks I'm stupid and shit?
Well, there is another what if, but ok I will answer it. If she already has the frame of mind that you will never do for a sex partner (and you know this for sure, if you don't you need to find out) then you need not keep trying.
By the way...I want to say one other thing. If you are the type of guy who gets a girl drunk so you can have your way with them...I hope I never see you, because I will rip off your fuckin' balls. That shit just isn't right! Remember that.
Third: Girls want a bad boy!
For all you good boys out there, don't feel left out just yet...this includes you too. A lot of you have probably been saying that girls only like just losers and assholes...the ones who get into a lot of trouble and couldn't add 2 and 2. Well it seems that way, But its only half way true. Girls want a guy who they can reform. Yes! What that means is that they want someone who they can make change for them...Like if they are bad (like the ones listed above) they want to try to make them change into good boys that will protect and love them.This would be the ultimate sign of love for a girl. But most commonly, a trouble maker guy who is a jerk, and a freakin' asshole will only change for a while in order to get some. Then he will go right back to his old ways. So what I am saying is (like back in concept 1) don't just sit back and not try,(you don't have to be a fuckin' jerk) Just be cool and smooth and a girl will interpret that as being a bad boy (in there eyes). So good boys!, listen up, just get more confident and try again and again. Trust me you will have a date in no time at all. I promise.
Conclusion: So just remember, be cool and confident...act like nothing is going to sink your boat, then try for a chick. Make sure you are delivering the first impression that will score you a hot Saturday night date (Remember the second concept!). Next, just act like you are the shit, no one is better than you...you are funny, and charming. After you have a chick enjoy the work you have done. Now this next thing is most important...treat her with respect and love her. I hope you have a great relationship!
